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A 100% guaranteed path to Resolution of conflict series. Part-1 of 6 parts.

Anand Damani
5 min readApr 24, 2024

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Conflict: A myth, Not a reality

While conflict seems ingrained in our mind (“conflict” comes from Latin meaning “to strike together”), focusing solely on having opposite views on the point in question. This article dives deep into the science of conflict, not to point fingers, but to equip you with the tools to navigate and be rid of it effectively.

Imagine conflict as a myth, that is man made and not in existence in reality . By understanding its roots (both internal and external) and the dynamics at play, you can transform conflict from a destructive force into a catalyst for positive change.

This article will be your guide, exploring:

  • The different types of conflict we face, from self-doubt to societal clashes.
  • Communication strategies to bridge divides and foster understanding.
  • Techniques to manage your emotions and de-escalate situations.

By taking these steps individually, we can collectively create a world where conflict is not a constant struggle, but a quarantined virus away from a more peaceful future.

Remember, the power to shape a society free of conflict lies within each of us. Let’s start the journey together.

Reframing the Narrative: From Conflict to Collaboration

For generations, conflict has been viewed as an inevitable force in nature and human society. We see it everywhere, from the animal kingdom to the workplace. However, this singular focus on conflict might be hindering our ability to create a truly harmonious world.

Imagine a magnificent coral reef, teeming with life. At first glance, conflict seems obvious: fish fighting for food, coral battling for sunlight. Yet, on closer inspection, we witness a remarkable collaboration. The vibrant colors of the coral attract fish, which in turn help disperse its vital spores. This intricate dance of interdependence ensures the survival of the entire ecosystem.

Conflict: A Limited Lens

Conflict, while present, is just one thread in the rich tapestry of nature. Collaboration, co-existence, and mutualism create a foundation of harmony. Conflict alone paints an incomplete picture, potentially leading to tension and a constant struggle for dominance.

A New Vision: Beyond the Myth

The “myth” might not be conflict itself, but the belief that it’s the sole driving force. By acknowledging the broader reality of cooperation and interconnectedness, we can develop a more holistic approach.

Healthy Conflict? Redefining the Term

Perhaps “healthy conflict” is an oxymoron. True growth might come from striving to improve oneself, not aiming to be better than others. When we focus on internal goals and collaboration, conflict becomes a tool for sparking discussion and innovation, not a constant state of being.

This shift in perspective invites us to explore alternative models. Imagine schools fostering teamwork and shared learning, or businesses prioritizing collaborative problem-solving. This collaborative spirit can pave the way for a more peaceful and prosperous future for all.

By recognizing the limitations of conflict and embracing the power of collaboration, we can create a world where everyone thrives, not just those who “win” the conflict. Getting to know the history of the word itself

The History of “Conflict” and its Ancestors

The English word “conflict” carries the weight of centuries of grappling with opposing forces. Let’s delve into its etymology and discover its cousins in ancient languages:

  • English — Conflict: Our word traces back to the Latin verb “confligere,” meaning “to strike together” or “to clash.” This Latin verb combines the prefix “con-” (together) with “fligere” (to strike). Interestingly, “fligere” itself is related to the Proto-Indo-European root “*bʰlig-,” which also meant “to strike.” This connection highlights the enduring association of conflict with physical clashes.
  • Greek — Agōn and Polemos: The ancient Greeks had two prominent words for conflict:
  • “Agōn” referred to a competition, struggle, or contest. It encompassed a wider range than just physical battles, including athletic competitions or debates.
  • “Polemos” signified war or armed conflict specifically.
  • Roman — Bellum: Similar to “polemos,” the Latin “bellum” strictly referred to warfare and military campaigns.
  • Sanskrit — Yudha and Dwandva: Sanskrit, another Indo-European language, offers rich vocabulary for conflict:
  • “Yuddha” translates to “war” or “battle,” closely aligned with the Latin “bellum.”
  • “Dwandva” signifies a duality, opposition, or conflict in a more general sense, encompassing internal struggles and external clashes.

These comparisons showcase a fascinating interplay:

  • Focus on Physicality: The Latin root and its connection to Proto-Indo-European suggest a historical emphasis on the physical aspects of conflict, with striking and clashing being central concepts.
  • Evolution of Meaning: While “conflict” in English retains this physical connotation, other languages like Greek (“agōn”) demonstrate an evolution towards broader meanings encompassing competition and struggle.
  • Internal vs. External: Sanskrit’s “dwandva” hints at the recognition of conflict existing not just between individuals or groups, but also within ourselves.

Understanding these linguistic roots allows us to appreciate the multifaceted nature of conflict and the various ways different cultures have conceptualized it throughout history.

Now that we understand how over the evolution of cultures and traditions conflict as a necessary evil has been so deeply ingrained that now for all purposes we see it as real. We consider conflict as the one source of all problems on this planet, Specifically for the human race from the individual to the nations and international relations conflict is a given clash of interests.

Moving a little deeper conflict is a difference in understanding.

The Root of Conflict: A Limited View

The most crucial step in resolving any conflict is recognizing a fundamental truth: our individual perspective is inherently limited. We cannot see the entirety of a situation, and this limited vision is often the root cause of conflict.

This seemingly simple acknowledgment embodies the wisdom of ages. Every scientific discovery, every spiritual teaching, every TED Talk and academic journal contributes to this profound truth. From the vast knowledge of physics to the introspective guidance of philosophy, all these sources converge on this vital concept.

Gratitude for Human Wisdom

The ability to accept our limited perspective is a gift, made possible by the accumulated knowledge of humanity. Think of the countless minds who have grappled with conflict throughout history. Their struggles, their insights, and their solutions are all woven into the fabric of human wisdom.

By acknowledging our limitations, we open ourselves to the vast reservoir of knowledge and experience accumulated by humanity. This knowledge empowers us to:

  • See beyond our blind spots: By acknowledging our limited view, we can actively seek perspectives different from our own.
  • Embrace empathy: Understanding that others have their own valid viewpoints fosters empathy and opens up a broader understanding.
  • Banish conflict constructively: Armed with a wider perspective, we can approach conflict with more flexibility and a willingness to find the truth that is the reality

A Call to Humility

Understanding this truth expands our intelligence or experience. It’s a sign of humility and a foundation for genuine understanding. By embracing this truth, we begin our journey to the resolution. We can tap into the collective wisdom of humanity and move towards a future where conflict gets quarantined into the realms of myth . An existential reality of no conflict . A step by step guide for different kinds of conflict will be discussed in the next article in this series.

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Anand Damani

Serial Entrepreneur, Business Advisor and Philosopher of Coexistence. Being resolved and helping others find their truth. www.ananddamani.com RESOLUTION GURU