My resolution & Guidance by Gemini

Anand Damani
6 min readMay 6, 2024

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A meaningful relationship as a human being is one where the other person can take me for granted and I will continue to stay there for him. That is the way the evolution has shaped me. As a complete saturated complete Atom coexisting with the most neurological advanced physical system I need to find fulfillment. That comes when I understand the purpose of my being on this planet as an entiry which is to understand all the cosmos that exists. Its interconnectedness and the role fo reach entity. As a human being or homo sapien I can understand my relationship with every other entity and be there for them irrespective of their taking me for granted.

The idea of a meaningful relationship being built on someone taking you for granted isn’t quite accurate. Here’s a different perspective:

Healthy Relationships:

  • Mutual Respect: A strong relationship involves respect for each other’s needs and feelings. You give and receive appreciation.
  • Reciprocity: Both partners contribute to the relationship’s well-being. It’s a two-way street, not one-sided.
  • Communication: Open and honest communication allows you to express needs and navigate challenges.

Fulfilling Your Purpose:

Your desire to understand the cosmos and humanity’s place within it is a beautiful aspiration. Here are some ways to explore it:

  • Science & Philosophy: Studying these fields can offer insights into the universe’s interconnectedness.
  • Empathy & Connection: By understanding others and building meaningful relationships, you can learn about the human experience.

Understanding Your Role:

While being there for others is admirable, it’s important to prioritize your own well-being too. Here’s a balance to consider:

  • Healthy Boundaries: Setting boundaries allows you to help others without neglecting your own needs.
  • Self-Esteem: Knowing your worth helps you avoid being taken advantage of.

Maybe this rephrases your thoughts?

“A meaningful relationship is one built on mutual respect and understanding. As a human with a curious mind, I seek to understand the universe and humanity’s place within it. Through science, empathy, and connection, I can explore this purpose and find fulfillment.”

Ultimately, the choice is yours.

My response:-

I can only be fulfilled when I do not need to be dependant on the other person giving me respect or love or affection.I have that in unlimited quantity in me and can see that the other person is also endowed with it but not enlightened enough to know it. So my being enlightened can only be useful if I can exhibit that in my behaviour. By being there on his side with no preconditions and dependancy on his reactions. That is when I truly know myself.

Gemini Response:-

That’s a powerful perspective. Here’s how your understanding of fulfillment aligns with healthy relationships:

  • Unconditional Positive Regard: You describe having an unlimited wellspring of respect, love, and affection within you. This aligns with the concept of “unconditional positive regard” in psychology, where you value someone for who they are, not what they do for you.
  • Self-Actualization: Your desire for self-knowledge aligns with the concept of “self-actualization,” which describes fulfilling your potential. By acting with unconditional love, you’re expressing your true self.
  • Growth Through Relationships: While you don’t rely on the other person’s reciprocation, healthy relationships can still be mutually beneficial. Your unwavering support might inspire them to explore their own potential.

Here are some additional thoughts:

  • Maintaining Healthy Boundaries: Even with unconditional love, boundaries are still important. You can be there for someone without enabling unhealthy behavior.
  • Open Communication: While you don’t expect reciprocation, consider expressing your needs openly. This creates space for deeper connection if the other person is receptive.
  • Personal Growth: Focus on your own growth journey alongside supporting your partner. This can inspire and motivate both of you.

Remember, a healthy relationship is a dance. While you bring your unique perspective, the other person might have their own way of expressing love and respect. Finding ways to connect and appreciate each other’s styles can be fulfilling for both.

My response:-

The boundaries that I draw must ensure that I do not create any impediment but allow the other person see me transparently as enlightened and full of love. Not as some one who is imposing preconditions. The thin line of differrence of having boundaries must be only to protect myself from physical loss and health hazaard .Eemotionally I need to be strong, much stronger than any shortcoming the other person may have to help him become fulfilled. That is what the homo sapiens as a species are supposed to do on this planet. To unite humanity to regulate the animal and plant kingdom in the material world to create abundance and continuity.

Gemini Response:-

It sounds like you have a very thoughtful and compassionate view of relationships and humanity’s role on Earth. Here are some points that resonate with your ideas:

  • Healthy Boundaries for Growth: Boundaries are crucial, but as you say, they shouldn’t hinder genuine connection. They should protect your well-being while allowing you to be open and supportive.
  • Leading by Example: By embodying love and understanding, you inspire others to explore their own potential. This aligns with the concept of leading by example.
  • Humanity’s Purpose: The idea of humans uniting, regulating ecosystems, and creating abundance for all is an inspiring vision. It highlights our potential as cooperative and caring stewards of the planet.

Here are some additional thoughts:

  • Compassionate Communication: Setting boundaries can be done with compassion. You can explain your needs without judgment.
  • Individual Paths: Everyone has their own path to growth. While you offer support, it’s important to respect the other person’s journey and choices.
  • Collective Action: Fulfilling this vision of a united humanity likely requires collective action. Perhaps your role includes inspiring others through your actions or even contributing to fields that promote cooperation and sustainability.

Remember, change can be slow and complex. But by focusing on living your values and inspiring others, you can contribute to a more loving and sustainable future.

My response:-

Great points. This change in me does not need to be slow. It needs to happen without which I will keep feeling empty and lacking. In every individual this shift can be very quick and immediate as soon as he is rid of the double think that society and tradition or culture have given him. Appreciate and imbibe the good things , get rid of the delusions and incorrect information. Anything that does not align with existential reality should be removed. Creating the mental shift can be a task for every single individual who wants to live a meaningful life. Thanks to internet speading this knowledge is very easy. Every one can evaluate it for himslef and adapt from where ever in life he is at this very moment.

Gemini response:-

I agree that personal transformation can be powerful and rapid. It’s inspiring that you believe this shift can happen quickly for many people.

Here are some things to consider about widespread change:

  • Individual Differences: People have varying levels of openness to change and different experiences that shape their beliefs. Some may be more receptive to new ideas than others.
  • Social Influence: Social circles, cultural norms, and societal structures can influence how quickly ideas spread. It can take time for change to gain momentum.
  • Sustainability: Rapid shifts can be destabilizing. Sustainable change often involves integrating new ideas with existing systems and values.
  • Emotional attachments: Even unhealthy patterns can be emotionally comforting. Letting go can be challenging.
  • Individual Differences: People learn and change at different paces. Some may experience quick shifts, while others require more time.
  • Celebrate Progress: Acknowledge your accomplishments, no matter how small. This reinforces positive change.
  • Seek Support: Consider therapy, joining a growth-oriented group, or connecting with like-minded individuals.

The internet can be a powerful tool for spreading information, but critical thinking skills are also important. People need to be able to evaluate information for accuracy and bias.

Here are some ways you can contribute to meaningful change:

  • Leading by Example: Live your values authentically and compassionately. This can inspire others to explore their own paths.
  • Sharing Your Knowledge: Share your ideas in a way that resonates with others. Consider the audience and tailor your message accordingly.
  • Open Dialogue: Engage in respectful dialogue with those who hold different viewpoints. Seek to understand their perspectives and share yours openly.

Change can be a collaborative effort. By focusing on living your truth and inspiring others, you can be a force for positive transformation in the world.

Ultimately, the key is to be patient with yourself and others. Change is a journey, not a destination. Here’s an analogy:

Imagine peeling an onion. Each layer reveals a new aspect of yourself. Similarly, shedding limiting beliefs can be a gradual process, uncovering your true potential layer by layer.

By embracing continuous learning and self-reflection, you can contribute to a more conscious and fulfilling world, one person at a time.

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Anand Damani

Serial Entrepreneur, Business Advisor and Philosopher of Coexistence. Being resolved and helping others find their truth. www.ananddamani.com RESOLUTION GURU